Anyone who knew me when I was a teenager or young adult would tell you that I don’t workout. That was true, until I started getting older and had to face the question of how I was to keep from getting fat. Since I’d had almost no experience with weight control and/or exercise, it took me a while to find things that worked for me. In the end, I took a combinationof weights and “social cardio”. By “social cardio”, I mean that I get my cardio by getting out, not by working out. I bike to and from work. I walk with the kids. I take the stairs, park a further way back, and walk anywhere I don’t absolutely need to drive to. In the end, it’s worked well for me. But, this blog post isn’t about how to exercise. It’s about how exercise has affected my sex life.
People native to Denver know what a fitness-friendly city this is. Every park has a jogging route, there’s bike paths everywhere, tons of sun, lots of winter activities, good healthy food, and a lot of really fit people. It’s as good a place to get into shape as any.
Before I got into shape, I considered having sex for 30 minutes to be long and 45 minutes to be a “marathon”. By the end, I was physically exhausted. And, I found I was unable to do the positions I liked. Here’s an example. When doing missionary, I would lay on top of my wife. I was unable to support myself because my arms and back were too weak. I asked and she says I wasn’t hurting her, but I was still lacking the manueverability that I desired. Since working out, I can now support myself with my arms without tiring myself out. Even better, I can grip my lady between my arms and actually thrust her against me. Each thrust can be slow and tantalizing without sacrificing penetration or general manliness.
Here’s another example. In the past, if we were falling off the bed, I had to exit, get off my lady, and ask her to move. Now, I can literally pick her up and place her wherever I want, all without exiting her body. I haven’t quite gotten to the point where I can really change positions without exiting, but I’m working on it.
Since starting my cardio regimen, we have increased the time of our average session. Now, 20 minutes is “a quicky”, 45 minutes is about standard, an hour is quite common, and we’ve been known to have sex for 2 and a half hours! And, at the end, instead of being physically exhausted, I’m awake and active. In fact, I used to roll over and fall asleep, and now I *can’t* fall asleep immediately afterwards. I make us food, we cuddle, maybe play a litle Wii, smoke a bowl, whatever. And, usually before going to sleep, I jerk off. And, in the morning I’m so horny the crack of dawn isn’t safe.
The wife has also lost weight, increased muscle and gotten healthier. It used to be that she more or less laid there and waited for me to have my way. Now, her every movement is exaggerated. Moans are more heartfelt, thrusts are stronger and crisper, everything is better. She even bites harder, although I’m having trouble explaining how a elliptical trainer makes her jaws stronger.
So, the take-away message here should be “working out makes you better in bed.” And, it’s not just better for your partner. It makes sex better for you as well.
